DOING WHAT YOU WANT
HAPPY JULY 4TH! It is interesting that this is a holiday we celebrate based on independence and freedom. Yet that’s exactly what we are talking about when we share this information on ways you are manipulated. If you don’t see those situations when they are happening in your life, you are choosing the other person’s desires over your own. Regardless of how or why you do something if you don’t want to do it still comes down to your will and desire being handed over to another person. There is no part of learning to love yourself that asks for you to sacrifice anything.
Why is this important? Because as we are learning to see our world through different lenses and take the time to look for other perspectives we are becoming more of our “ORIGINAL SELVES”. As we grow spiritually, we share the energy we gain from learning more about how the world really works. By not focusing on the lower frequencies being shoved in our faces we choose not to ignore but to hold ourselves to a higher standard of living. We can make a difference in this world one person at a time, one choice at a time.
Each time you break that cycle of manipulation you’ve been enduring that forces those people who are manipulators to have to change their strategies. This, in turn, gives them an opportunity to see things differently. It frees us from thinking we must do what other people want in order to make them happy. Goran talked about some of the techniques used and he will share a few more this month. This may seem like a small thing to you, but it is huge in how it changes everything around you as you recognize what’s really happening and make other choices about what feels right to you.
GORAN
As we shared before initially when all things were in the beginning of being created (the creative cycle) everyone had something to contribute and felt it. They were valued and felt that as well. There was BALANCE. But then some minds shifted and those that felt ignored or less than others had to find a way to feel in control and belong once again. So they found that they could feel like they belonged by controlling others. This imbalance wasn’t immediately corrected because we who helped to create these new worlds knew that those beings being controlled had a choice. They could fight that type of control, and some did. They called themselves warriors.
Then there were the kind and generous ones who weren’t made to fight. They told themselves that by going along with this manipulation they could help those beings who needed to control. The problem with that was the ones controlling used appropriate logic and responses designed to keep those compassionate ones using their creative energies for themselves. Soon what started as a quirk in the system created various subcultures or “tribes”. And so it began.
See each of you have been given wonderous gifts. You were given the gift of creating using both your mind and emotions. Right at the beginning of your soul’s birth Prime Source gave you the power to create whatever you wanted or needed through perspectives and choices. As your soul ventured out to other places, Prime Source gave you the connection of undeniable love so pure there was nothing you could do or say to stop that love from being part of who you were. They wanted their love to fill you so much you wouldn’t need to create from deficit.
These are gifts for the Gods. Yet when you ALLOW others to control you are handing over your ability to create through the desire to please. You are relinquishing your power to share your knowledge by accepting their version of whatever truth is being presented to you. You are limiting your ability to create instead of focusing on what demands or requests are being made. In all these things you are reducing your beautiful and wonderous self to a lump of clay that can’t think or see but be used as putty. Hang onto that visual as that is more aligned with the truth.
So what we are saying to you is giving away your abilities and your power and your own desires with the manipulation of others creates such a hole inside your soul that you feel it. It opens you up to disappointment and hurt. Your intuition which talks to you has to speak louder in order to get beyond the borders you’ve created by doing this act. How is that good for anyone?
We who are watching you and trying to help become saddened every time we see this scenario play itself out. When you don’t use your voice to speak your truth or don’t pay attention when your body is talking to you it is sad because all those resources you have as help are right there trying to help you see what you need. In choosing to listen to what your intuition and logic tells you first, we see you remembering your greatness and beauty. We see you becoming full and knowing so you can see what is happening and not just responding to old habits. We see you and find your power incredible. You can move mountains, you, too, can create civilizations and stars. Reclaim your power of choice, use your voice to share, and be true to what feels right to you once again.
Suggestions to respond to being manipulated:
Guilt-When guilt is being used STOP, STEP BACK, AND DON’T ACCEPT IT. Look to see if it’s something you need to notice and change for yourself when you are away from that person. They are using guilt because it works. Call them on it if you can. You can say, “I understand your position, but I am not able to help right now.”
If you love me…… The response can be “love doesn’t need to be proven if it’s real” (which it doesn’t because it can be proven enough for those people)
I’m only trying to protect you… The response can be “thanks for your concern but I am capable of figuring this out as it’s a lesson for me.”
I will be disappointed and hurt if you don’t……”That’s not what I wanted but disappointment is something we all have to deal with.”
Would you do,,,,,,for me? “I need to check my schedule first.” Or “let me think about it” or simply say that you can’t do whatever is being asked that feels like an imposition or expectation which is manipulation. Everyone understands when they agree to something and then resent it later on as they don’t want to do it. What does that achieve?
It’s a given that when you do step back and not fall into the trap those people are going to be upset with you which is a good sign. Just put your protection up for a few days once you do it. You will feel stronger as you remember how to create what you desire.
One Source 